To wrap up our Conversation series, I am going to end with how you can start conversation if you are an introvert.
As an fellow introvert, I can relate to many of your predicaments.
You want to have friends and socialize and not be seen as the only one not speaking or engaging in conversation, but you don’t know how to start.
We introverts are quiet by nature. We have a lot to say or imagine we have a lot to say, but when we are put in a social element we either forget what we are going to say, or can’t muster the courage to start or carry a conversation. Of course we all have those imaginary conversations with people we do want to talk to, but when the opportunity arises, we buck out. It is too stressful or hard for us to just go up and speak.
But don’t fear. All of these tendencies as an introvert can be easily solved with a little effort.
- If you want to start a conversation, try to find at least one person to talk to. If it is helpful, find a person in a quiet environment. This will ease the jitters when there is not many people around. I find I have more conversations with a couple people in a group than where there is a large crowd. There I just let others do that talking, because it is hard to make my voice loud enough to be heard.
- Ask open-ended questions. A simple “Hi, and how was your week?” is a great conversation starter. Try to avoid questions that will give one response, such as “How are you ?” (“Good.”).
- Don’t be afraid if you feel like your failing. Try to say “Hi” to everyone that passes by while you are working or walking. Doing this will help boost your courage. It might not be a conversation starter, but at least you are trying to appear friendly and sociable.
- Have patience. Just like everything, learning a new skill will take time to implement and perfect. Just try to talk to everyone, and keep boosting your courage. Implementing all of these tips will help you get better carrying a conversation and being social.
I hope these tips were helpful to you, and I will see you in the next post.
Alyssa